Small Changes Make a Big Difference Part 6 – Daring

Daring what is is? The trait of Daring is defined by Rob Yeung as the willingness to take action in the face of uncertainty. It’s about having courage and conviction, about pursuing activities in spite of how apprehensive or even down right scared we might feel. Daring is about embracing opportunities, forging ahead and not worrying about looking ridiculous should things go wrong.

Small Changes make a big Difference – Daring

Daring what is is?  The trait of Daring is defined by Rob Yeung as the willingness to take action in the face of uncertainty.  It’s about having courage and conviction, about pursuing activities in spite of how apprehensive or even down right scared we might feel.  Daring is about embracing opportunities, forging ahead and not worrying about looking ridiculous should things go wrong.

We talk about daring being going out of your comfort zone, making minor improvements and changes to everything you do.  For instance before I started this business I was a camera avoider.  Now I am doing videos, and sharing photos of myself quite regularly.  I had never stuck to any writing before and now I am doing blogging reasonably regularly, so for me taking the leap and investing in this business in the strongest way by going what we call black or all-in was definitely stepping out of my comfort zone.

Most business people that practice the trait of Daring understand that you invest time and money into a thing and try it out.  Some things work and somethings don’t but you have to try and fail, understand why you fail and grow from that.  You can try and fail a number of things until something finally works but you have to know why you failed in the first place.  Do the analysis.

One of the things you are always told is what will you say you did with your life on your deathbed.  Will you have regrets? You need to distinguish between soul enriching risks and frankly dangerous ones.

Starting a new company after doing the research can be a good risk, outright gambling can be a bad decision.  Too many people settle for what they have.  Will you end up settling too?

A huge body of research shows that people who make goals are much more likely to take action and make positive changes than people who only have vague intentions.  What has also been discovered is the best way to make these goals work is to make sure they follow the PAST Acronym  of

P=Positive

A=Ambitious

S=Specific

T=Timebound

We make goals positive because our brains are hardwired to respond to signals from both reward and punishment.  You know from animal experiments that reward is always the best way to train.  For example in a study at University of Rochester they found that people that were setting avoidance goals for themselves (i.e. trying to get away from negative consequences) actually experienced a decline in their self-esteem and feelings of life satisfaction as compared to people who pursued approach goals (moving towards positive consequences) eg wanting to make friends was more successful than wanting to avoid feeling lonely.

Specific, Difficult goals consistently lead to high performance however goals that are too arduous can hurt performance.  The goal needs to be specific and challenging but not feel unattainable. Making ambitious, specific commitments is a great way to kick us into action.

It has been found that self-imposed deadlines boost our chances of getting things done.  Simply by making a personal pledge to do a certain task by a certain date can be good too.

The best way to meet our goals is to follow a stepwise approach.

  • Begin by drawing a staircase on a sheet of paper. Include at least six for a start.
  • Write down a few words about your current situation at the bottom of the staircase
  • Now write a short description about where you would like to get to at the top of the staircase
  • Now start working backwards from your goal to figure out the individual steps you will need to take.
  • Think about the order of the steps.  Which ones do you need to do first.
  • For each step consider
    • What are the specific actions you need to do?
    • Who can/should help?
  • You may need to re-draw your staircase several times adding further steps.

Drawing your staircase is only the first step.  Now you need to start taking action.

One of the best ways to promote Daring is to make people believe that you are changeable and can be developed, do not attach labels to them and encourage them that anything can be learned.

When encouraging children to be daring teach your children that their brain circuitry is malleable and it grows fresh connections and grows in response to stimulation and nearly anything can be improved with diligence.

Pursuing more opportunities does mean that we will fail more often so one way to give us a backstop for this is to have a Setback Manifesto. Exceptional people see blunders and failures as feedback, constructive criticism, and insight into what doesn’t work or what they should do differently.  Rather than seeing them as a sign that we should give up, setbacks can tell us that we may need to work harder, learn more, consider other options or adapt our tactics, or ask for help.  Repeated failures normally tell us that we should pursue something else but at least we know for certain what doesn’t suit us.

Remember that nothing in life can ever be certain.  High achievers believe in trial and error and take action even when matters are uncertain or they feel a little scared.

Remembering that a huge part of success is psychological read and train your brain by listening to empowering audios, doing training on ways to do business and training your mind that you will be successful.

If you want to see more about the traits of high achievers then check out the rest of the series below

Introduction

Part 2

Part 3

Part 4

Part 5

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 This blog contains excerpts from the book The Extra One Percent by Rob Yeung

 

 

 

 

 

 

Small Changes Make a Big Difference Part 5 – Connecting

Connecting it is something we do everyday with people but are you using your connections to their best advantage?

I am in the process of hunting for a new job at the moment as well as running an online business and trying to raise funds for my friend in Kenya. So I am trying to use my connections I have to help me all of these tasks.

Small Changes Make a Big Difference Part 5 – Connecting

Connecting it is something we do everyday with people but are you using your connections to their best advantage?

I am in the process of hunting for a new job at the moment as well as running an online business and trying to raise funds for my friend in Kenya.  So I am trying to use my connections I have to help me all of these tasks.

This morning I received an email from a connection on Linked In which I had not actually contacted yet about the job hunt and tomorrow I have an interview with his organisation.  On Facebook I am using my connections to build business contacts and relationships so people will get to know me and my desires. I am also using my Facebook contacts and personal contacts to help me to raise money to get my friend’s 10 year old daughter released from Hospital.

I was reading in Rob Yeung’s book,  The Extra One Percent – How Small changes make Exceptional People, that often it is our weak ties that act as bridge builders between communities.

Think about how many connections you have. Write a list of those people.

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Now rate those contacts on the strength of your relationship with them, perhaps by giving each person between 1 and 3 stars.  Now say you have a particular goal – perhaps to raise money for a charity, promote your business or find a job, you may be tempted to stick to the safe ground of talking to the people you know best, your 2 star and 3 star relationships but research has shown this may not be the most lucrative course of action.

Several studies have highlighted the power of weak ties. One Rob talks about is where employees and managers in three totally different organisations – An American Pharmaceutical Company, a British Bank and a Canadian Oil and Gas company – were surveyed.  The research team found that most people relied on their strong ties for knowledge and advice, however the most useful information more often than not came from their weak ties rather than the people they were in contact with most often.  Another study found that jobseekers who made the additional effort to contact their weak ties tended to earn more in their next jobs than their counterparts who focused mainly on the people they already knew well.

It has even been discovered that belonging to a greater number of social groups and networks may even help protect from illness.  More than a few studies show that people who have more diversified social networks live longer than people with fewer social relationships.  Most remarkably, the relative risk of death for individuals with few social networks is comparable in magnitude to the impact that cigarette smoking has on mortality.  Putting it another way, having few friends is as dangerous for our health as taking up smoking.

When I read this I had to re-read it a few more times.  Having few friends is as dangerous for our health as taking up smoking.  Glad I am out and about a lot.  I only have a few really close friends but I have lots of associates and acquaintances so I hope it makes me safe.  Working everyday in big organisations, been involved in sports clubs or dance clubs or business clubs always adds to your social networks.  I am not so sure this is relevant for online only friends, but if it is then I am safe there as I am making more online friends every day.

It is not necessarily the number of friends you have but more the diversity of the social ties you have.  You can have loads of friends but if they all are in the same group hang out with the same people etc then it will not give the diversity required.  The protective factor seems to be the nuber of different social circles a person belongs to and this protective factor seems to have held even taking into account other factors such as patterns of smoking, alcohol consumption, physical exercise, sleep quality, diet and personality type. So when it comes to the shielding health benefits of social ties, both the quantity and quality of ties matter less than the sheer diversity of them.  That is having loads of weak ties.

Hang with your friends and the people you feel most comfortable with but remember it is actually our weak ties that may help us to break fresh ground, achieve our goals and protect our health.  Whether we are looking for an unadvertised job opening, a new customer for our businesses or even a hot date, you’re more likely to find it through casual acquaintances than close friends.friends

Connecting is the skill of reaching out to new people and leveraging relationships for mutual gain.  You don’t have to meet hundreds of new people.  Just the art of adding a couple of new people to our address book each day can make a difference and significantly boost our chances of achieving goals.

Remember people may be happy to help us achieve our goals, but they can’t unless we gently let them know we exist and tell them what we are wanting.

We must look to surround ourselves with the people we most aspire to be like.  Whether your intention is to lose weight, raise money for a cause, move up the corporate ladder, learn from people who are doing what you want to do.

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If you want to see the other four other traits I have written about so far then please check them out here.

Small Changes make a Big Difference  – Introduction and Part 1 and Awe

Small Changes make a big Difference – Part 2 – Cherishing

Small Changes make a big difference –  Part 3 – Authenticity

Small Changes make a big Difference – Part 4  – Centredness

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 This blog contains excerpts from the book The Extra One Percent by Rob Yeung.