My Story | Who is Leonie Henskie Part 5

In this blog I discuss the last few years of events that have been happening in my life and come to where we are today.
Today we discuss, deaths, Joy and sorrow and redundancies.

The next major event in our life was the Christchurch quakes. These affected many people in New Zealand and they affected me because my family lives down there.

Fortunately for my family no one was hurt but the city will never be the same again.  What effected my family most were the aftershocks.  And the ongoing mental and physical damage they did to people.

We, up in Wellington, have no real idea of what they went through. Even though we have always been the city forecast to have the quakes, so have always built above the rest of the country’s code.  When I used to ring my Grandmother, Nan would tell me that she could hear the quakes coming as my parents had got her a dresser where the handles rattled, so she could brace herself for the aftershocks.

April 2011 Brian finally gave up the struggle.  He was in hospital for Easter and I remember Betty told us he really held on until he could receive his Easter communion which was a couple of weeks after Easter because the hospital chaplain was so busy.  The day he received his communion he died that night.  We had been in the hospital earlier in the evening and had seen him then.  This time he had suffered a stroke on top of everything and that was making his limited breathing very hard and he had no concentration for reading which was his life. Betty got the call at about 9.30 that night that the orderlies had just been going to collect Brian to take him back to MAPU ward so he could go on the ventilator and when they got back he had passed.

Brian Photo

When we saw him laid out he was the most peaceful we had seen him for a long time.  He was no longer struggling.  Brian died when Alan had only been in a new role for a couple of weeks but Telecom were great and made sure he had the support he needed.

We went down to Christchurch for the Christmas of 2011 and I caught up with my family . The damage to Christchurch was heartrending.   Alan and I were staying in a motel in Riccarton and were able to walk around and see the damage that had happened.   So many of the landmarks I had grown up with were no longer there, or were damaged beyond repair.

In  2012 we were down in Christchurch again this time to say goodbye to my grandmother, the last surviving grandparent I had, while she was hospitalised for the last time.  I am glad we managed to get to see her one more time before she passed . I was not able to make it to her funeral so once again I did not grieve properly until a later time.

The other big thing that happened to us in 2012 was we met our friend Heni who has made a huge change to our lives.   I have spoken before about how Heni has changed our lives and also how we have changed hers so I will not go into detail here.  If you want to read more about this then read it here .

And one thing that was not so good in 2012 is our cat that we had had for 18 and a half years, and she was 4 and a half, when we got her, finally passed on.  Here is a photo of Spliffy. We knew she was old and getting ready to pass but she managed to hold on until the 15th of February and died in our arms.  She was cremated on the 18th of February which was my birthday.  She was a beautiful cat and a big part of our lives.

After Spliffy passed we got our deck done.  For us this was a major piece of work as we had been in the same property for 20 years and not really experienced any outdoor living space as the front lawn had been a bull nose.  That deck has made such a big difference to us.  Even today while it is raining heavily we have the deck door open so the cats can come in and out at will. Once the deck was complete we introduced Raspberry to our family.  It was the first time we had ever had a kitten so it was a big learning curve for us and watching her grow was amazing.  I have never really been a big photo taker but with Raspberry we have made sure we have had lots of videos and photos of her growing up.

Here is what she looked like when we first met her.

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Things have gone reasonably smoothly since the end of 2012.

We got another cat in early 2014 exactly a year younger than Raspberry and he is called Coffee.

Alan and Coffee

I did a really good contract at Telecom/Spark at the end of 2013 which turned into a permanent role at the beginning of 2014 and life was looking pretty smooth.  Then things started happening around the office.  The first big change was the name change from Telecom to Spark. Then they started restructuring. Alan was in the thick of things and the strain was really showing, he had already survived two other cuts, so when in December 2014 Alan was made redundant he was jubilant.  To him it was an opportunity to start a business of his own and he would have at least 6 months of redundancy to get things going with. As usual I was a mess, crying all the time as I was coming to terms with the fact that for the first time in about 25 years I was going to be the only breadwinner until his company kicked in.

Over the Christmas break I immediately went into action starting to work on a plan B in case anything else happened as once Spark started re-structuring you knew it was going to be an ongoing process.  That is when I came across this business and started doing the training.  I loved what I saw so much and the company really  rang my bell as something I would love to be involved with, that I went all in as soon as I could.  To me it was the best decision I could have done as the training I have done with this company and work on self-development has helped so much this year.

The next thing that happened to us was Alan’s Grandmother passed in her 101st year.  If you want to read more about this I have written about it at the time last year.  You can read it here,  Once again my birthday is now associated with a different event as the funeral was on the 19th of February,  It was at Gran’s funeral that I finally said goodbye to Nan.  So many of the things the speakers were saying about Gran Henskie made me think of my Nan.  My girlfriend who also attended with us found it cathartic for her to finally say good bye to her grandmother and mother as well.

We knew it was coming so when it did it we were a lot more mentally prepared than in the past.  I was made redundant on the 14th August 2015.

Now we had two of us out of work.  Alan’s business was not yet making a sustainable income and neither was mine. And this time around getting a new position was harder than it had been in the past.

I continued to work my business every chance I got and was starting to get more interest all the time. However it could not pay the bills yet.  We thoroughly enjoyed the time we had together.  We were able to go swimming mid-week, spend relaxed time together and get an idea of what life will be like when we are leading the life we really want to.  Just in future there will not be the financial stress.

This year has been a year of learning.  I have met some amazing people online and in person.  I have done some amazing training setting me up for success and life.  I have prepared my mind for success and will continue to do so for the rest of my life.

Everything happens for a reason and just as we were about to fill out the papers seeking government assistance fate steps in the way and I manage to pick up temporary work.  This happens every time so I know no matter what we will be OK.  And the good news is that after a solid 4 months of looking Alan has a contract role starting the 11th of January so we are excited for this year.

This year has been a year of learning.  I have met some amazing people online and in person.  I have done some amazing training setting me up for success and life.  I have prepared my mind for success and will continue to do so for the rest of my life. We have learned to live life to fullest on a budget and I have even managed to help a Kenyan family over the year as well.

The teeshirt at the top of this blog I think says it all.  This was designed by my husband and he is going to re-launch that side soon.  If you do not suffer scrapes and bruises along the way you are not living life.  However you also need to learn from those scrapes and bruises so each time you fall down you can get up again.

I hope that going through my experiences like this has helped you understand a bit more about me. And shown ways I can help you to get through your challenges what ever they might be.  As you can see I have had to deal with grief, Redundancy and illnesses of various sorts over the years so I have a wealth of experience.

Have a great day.  And if you have missed the rest of the series they are available here:

Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

Part 4

If anything I have said resonates with you.  Leave a comment below, and catch up with me on FaceBook.  I would love to chat.

 

 

Preparation | Are you prepared?

Are you Prepared?

I was trying to think about what to write in a blog today and I thought what am I doing right now?

I am waiting in anticipation/trepidation or whatever you want to call it for a restructure pack to come out. We have been prepared by our manager to expect major change in the organisation. That we will see major changes to the way we work and are aligned and also that there will be numbers which are a lot lower than we currently have in workforce.

We were told it would be out about 4:00 o’clock however it is now 5:21pm. This is a common trait of this particular manager, I know because my husband went through it several times before me.

This is the same sort of thing that happens when the media has built up a big storm and everyone is prepared and waiting to see what happens. You sit there anticipating a great big damaging storm.

You have been prepared to face damage and so when the storm passes with minor damage then it is just a relief.

Are you prepared if something happens to your family? Could you cope if a loved one was admitted to hospital suddenly? Or if you lost your job in yet another re-structure? Change is just a part of life these days and we have to be prepared to face anything.

One of the ways I am preparing myself mentally to cope with whatever is thrown my way is by listening to audios, associating with really positive people, diversifying our family income sources and knowing within myself that I can if need be get a job anywhere.

What are you doing to prepare yourself for change?

Do you remember being in scouts or guides by any chance and the scout motto of be prepared?

We were taught from a young age to prepare ourselves physically and mostly mentally for any situation but how many of us have carried it through to adult life?

Are you in a financial situation where if something unexpected comes up you can cope until you get back on your feet again?

Are you diversifying your income by building up a business of your own that you can do anywhere so long as you have an internet connection?

If disaster strikes you and your loved ones could you create another income, or spend time with a loved one without thinking about it?

I can’t yet but I am working on it. Over the last few blogs I have been talking about the tee-shirt company my husband has started and his other income stream of business coaching.

I am doing blogging and internet marketing to diversify my income so that I have a plan B which can become my plan A if and when needed. My goal is to build my Plan B up so it can replace my Plan A and give me time freedom and financial freedom.

If you would like to work on ways to diversify your income, write about your passion, or just love learning then check out the banners on this page and join me in this quest to make the world a better place by sharing our love and advice and helping others to succeed.

Are you prepared?

One of my international friends is going through a really hard time at the moment.  In the last few weeks his mother has had to go into hospital to get a cancer operation and this morning he told me that his oldest daughter is in hospital with Malaria.  He has told me she needs blood, the same type as his and the hospital has some if he pays for it however right now he is struggling to pay his bus fare to get home to see his daughter. Are you prepared if anything like this happened to you? Take the step now and start creating your new life by making sure you are prepared.

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Unexpected Changes- preparing for a funeral

As a result the last couple of days have been busy doing funeral preparation. It is amazing the information that is needed on the Death Certificate.

HI all

Thank you for reading my blogs.  You have may have noticed I haven’t been here for a couple of days.  The reason why is that I have had a death in the family.

Last Thursday night my husband’s Grandmother passed away in her 101st year.  This was not unexpected as she had moved to aged care home 3 weeks ago and as she had told us for as long as I remember the only way she was going out of her house was in a pine box. We guessed that she had decided that she could not cope any more and she knew she would be going soon.  The really good thing about it was that it as so quick.  We got the call that we needed to get to the home now, so we threw on our shoes and got in the car and called my mother-in law to say we were leaving now and to be at the gate.  In that time there had been another phone call to say Gran had passed so it was literally about five minutes so she did not linger.  That is one of the things she always said she did not want to happen to her.  She did not want to linger.

As a result the last couple of days have been busy doing funeral preparation.  It is amazing the information that is needed on the Death Certificate.  To find the information I had to go and do one of my other hobbies of Genealogy. I had to find out her Mother’s maiden name, and her Father’s name and occupation.  When you are trying to find out the information for someone who is one hundred years of age, then this is more of a challenge because records were not as good as they are now.  Fortunately I was able to connect with someone else who had discovered this information as a result of the research they were doing for their family trees.

My mother in law remembered some of the stuff that Gran had said about her family but she did not talk about it very often as she was more interested in the here and now.

There is so much you need to when a loved one passes.  Stuff that you would not normally think about so something you can do to make life easier for everyone is have records safely stored about your immediate family, your parents, your mother’s maiden name.

You need to think about what clothes your loved one will be buried or cremated in, if there is going to be a viewing before the funeral, what kind of casket your loved one should be in. Then there is the order of service and what photos you want to have in the order of service. Do you want a video of the service? What kind of flowers do you want on the casket?

All these things you need to do before you can start even grieving. We were planning the funeral to be on Wednesday, we were thinking of days only not dates and as a result it wasn’t until my husband and I were nearly home, that we realised that Wednesday is my birthday and we did not want my birthday to be ever linked to Gran’s funeral, so we immediately rang Alan’s Mum to say we have to do the funeral on Thursday, Fortunately she was speaking to the pastor at the time and was able to change the date.  The Funeral is now Thursday morning, with burial at the Graveyard from noon.

Meanwhile life goes on. We have had Valentine’s day yesterday, and today my husband and girlfriend did heap of things together as a way of celebrating my day. Tomorrow I will go back to my JOB, most of the running around has been done now and I can relax and let it all flow on.

Here are some of the photo’s that were taken at Gran’s 100th Birthday

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Gran’s 100th Birthday Cake. My Mother-in-Law did the cake and the card is all icing.

 

 

 

The Flowers Gran got for her 100th
The Flowers Gran got for her 100th
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Front Page of Card From the Queen
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Inside the Card from the Queen

Hope you enjoyed my blog today.  If you want to get in contact with me contact me on Facebook or Twitter and we can talk.  If you want a place on the net that you can call home. just like this one then check out the links below.

Have a wonderful day

Leonie