The Sifuna Family – My Kenyan Family

Today I am going to do a passion piece about a family I have met online called the Sifuna Barasa’s.

I met Peter chatting online on Facebook early this year and have been involved with the family ever since.

Peter and I just started chatting and he started to teach me Kiswahili the native official language of Kenya.

Peter told me that he was a security guard at a resort 575km away from his family home near the town of Bungoma.  He showed me pictures of his wife and four beautiful daughters that he was missing dreadfully.

One day while we chatting he tells me that he has to rush home quickly because his mother has just been diagnosed with cancer and has to have an operation.  At this stage he is earning the minimum wage in Kenya of around $120 US a month I think it was about 18500 Kenya Shillings.  The bus fare home was about 3000 Kenya Shillings so it was a huge expense every time Peter had to go home.

At this time when Peter is home he manages to lease the only piece of land he possesses to pay for for his mother’s hospital treatment.  His mother had a successful operation and as a result we thought all would go ok from here.  Peter went back to his workplace and started work again.  About this time his bosses came to him and said because the tourist trade was pretty low at the moment they were going to lower the wages of most of their staff to part time rates so suddenly Peter’s monthly salary was lowered to the equivalent of $70.00 US a month.

Peter is back at his work for another four weeks and he gets another call from his wife Janet to say that their oldest daughter who is nine at the time has been admitted to the Bungoma Referral Hospital with Malaria and the bill for this is going to be 31,000 Kenya Shillings.  At this stage I manage to get the equivalent of about $3000 Kenya Shillings over to Peter so he can catch the bus home and another friend of mine also manages to send a similar amount over.  This enables Peter to get home and see his  daughter however it does not make a dent in the hospital bill.

Now the trouble starts.

While Norlan is in hospital she has her 10th birthday and then she is officially discharged by the hospital.  Now you would think that when someone is officially discharged they can go home but not in this case.

The hospital then told Peter because he could not pay the bill.  This all happened at the end of June, because Norlan turned 10 on the 2nd of July still in hospital.  Peter was told that because the bill could not be paid Norlan would remain confined to hospital however this would also mean the bill would continue to go up daily.

Meet Norlan

Norlan

At this point I put out pleas every where for people to help pay the bill but have little traction, however the other day when talking to my mentor She suggested I do some real research so I did and found that although it was a common practice in Kenya to keep patients or deceased patients families hostage until the bill was paid it was in fact illegal.

I found an article in the Kenya news online about a case where this had happened and it was taken to court and the decision was that this was an illegal  practice.

Here is the article that got things moving.  After finding out this information Peter first presented the hospital staff with this information who gave him a very rough time and then he went to his lawyer who put in action an order to sue the hospital and present an order to the court to get Norlan released from hospital after  she had been held hostage there since July.

Here is Peter’s own words

just got home from meeting the lawyer, and he went to court to sue the hospital and present a court order to release our lovely daughter Norlan before Friday and clear the outstanding bill later, he adviced me not to waste much time on research rather give him time to fight our battles, i spoke to the person who was our manager told him a bout my case and in good faith he send me ksh 10000, which will refund him later i gave to the lawyer, so far things are going on well, if there will be no changes dear, Norlan will be released before Friday, your brilliant advice has positively worked in a very short time,Janet has never failed to ask me say jambo to you and your mume, bless.

The next bit of news

was to the office of the lawyer, he submitted a court order to the hospital where Norlan is held hostage asking them to release Norlan as soon as possible and allow us pay the bill when we can, and not to increase the bill any farther, so hopefully dear Norlan could be released tomorrow if things go the way are moving, we thank God because of you dear, Janet has said jambo to both of you, bless
And the news I got this morning

Mzuri sana most dear rafiki Leonie, sorry for delay to respond dear, today was very busy day for us, but eventually Norlan was released from hospital after being there for some months, my wife was moved to tears in disbelieve after Norlan was safely handed over to us after confirming she is ok and stable, she mentioned your name several times while thank God through for the effort while made our daughter released, she was excited to re join the family after missing them for some months, we held a part for her, she is okay, we left the bill of 2500$ in hospital, which we should try to pay up to December 31st, no additional charges, harassment from the hospital till we freely pay the bill either once or in installment, may God greatly reward you and our most lovely friend brother Alan.

At this news both Alan I burst into tears.  It was such wonderful news.

Also during this time Peter lost his job at the resort where he was working because it was taken over by new owners so is currently seeking work closer to home.  I have encouraged him to be closer to his family and not have such a great travel cost.

Now with the bill at a finalised amount I need your help to pay it.  I have set up a givealittle page which accepts credit cards.  All money raised will be sent to Peter via Western Union so the bill can be paid.

Please go and check it out here.  At the moment it says it still needs to be donor verified which means that two more people need to make a donation.  Once that happens then the site will be available in the search engines.

Thank you for your time and support

Have a great day

Millionaire mind | Wealth Files Part 6

If something bad happens to you e.g. a redundancy do you look at it as an obstacle or an opportunity?

Rich people see potential growth and they focus on rewards. Poor people see potential loss, and focus on the risks.

Millionaire Mind | Wealth Files

 

This is the sixth post on things I have learned from “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind”

Last post I talked about the first four Wealth Files.  Today I am going to talk about the next three.
These Wealth Files  are from ‘Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” by T Harv Eker

Wealth File #5
Rich People Focus on Opportunities. Poor People focus on Obstacles

If something bad happens to you e.g. a redundancy do you look at it as an obstacle or an opportunity?

Rich people see potential growth and they focus on rewards.  Poor people see potential loss, and focus on the risks.

Poor people generally make choices based on fear, their minds are constantly scanning for what is wrong or could go wrong in any situation.  Their primary mind-set is what if it doesn’t work? Or more often, “It won’t work.” Middle class people are slightly more optimistic.  Their mind-set is “I sure hope this works.”

Rich people expect to succeed, they have confidence in their abilities, creativity and believe that if stuff goes wrong they will find another way to succeed.

Rich people focus on what they want, while poor people focus on what they do not.  Remember what you focus on expands.  Because rich people focus on the opportunities in everything, opportunities abound for them.

Your field of focus determines what you find in life.

For me when I was made redundant I focussed on it as an opportunity.  For me it was a chance to put some serious work into this business, doing blogging etc.  It was also an opportunity for me to experience to some degree the life I want to lead of freedom.  Now work opportunities are coming my way so I will not have the freedom again but will keep working on that in my own time.

Harv Eker says if you want to get rich focus on making, keeping and investing your money.  If you want to be poor, focus on spending your money.

Rich people do research quickly, and then take action.  Poor people are known to do the research and then keep doing the research without ever taking action.

Rich people trust that once they are in the game they can make intelligent decisions in the present moment, make corrections, and adjust their directions along the way.

Wealth File #6
Rich People admire other rich and successful people.  Poor people resent rich and successful people.

How do you look at rich people?  Do you look at them and want to associate with them and learn from them or do you think they are bad in some way?  If you think rich people are bad you will never be rich.  You need to change that mental programming.

Me, personally I am loving my association with rich people and am soaking up as much of their knowledge as I possibly can. When I look back at my history my husband and I have always been around rich and successful people.  Over the years we have met some very rich people, and our first real introduction was our first multi-level marketing company. We have always enjoyed spending time with the top earners and have made an effort to do so in every other business we have been associated with.  To me rich people are my mentors, they have done it, so I am going to follow in their footsteps as much as possible.

The truth is resenting the rich is one of the surest ways to stay broke.  Instead of resenting the rich we need to start admiring the rich blessing them and loving them.  That way when you become rich other people will admire you, bless you and love you instead of resent the heck out of you the way you might do them now.  One of the sayings in in Hawaii based on old Huna Wisdom is

“Bless that which you want.  If you see a person with a beautiful home, bless that person and that home.  If you see a person with a beautiful car, bless that person and bless that car. If you see a person with a loving family, bless that family and bless that person.  If you see a person with a beautiful body bless that person and bless their body.  In other words Bless that which you want”

 

Wealth File #7
Rich People Associate with positive, successful people.  Poor people associate with negative or unsuccessful people

Take a look at the people around you.  What sort of people are they? Do they celebrate the success of others or do they put down their success?

Harv Eker says the fastest and easiest way to create wealth is to learn exactly how rich people, who are masters of money, play the game.  The goal is simply model their inner and outer strategies.  If you take the exact same actions and have the exact same mind-set, chances are good you will get the exact same results.

Here is Harv’s answer if the loved ones you are closest too are negative

“First don’t bother trying to get negative people to change. That’s not your job.  Your job is to use what you have learned to better yourself and your life.  Be the model, be successful, be happy, then maybe – and I stress Maybe- they’ll see the light (in you) and want some of it.  Again, energy is contagious.  Darkness dissipates in light. People actually have to work hard to stay “dark” when light is all around them.  Your job is simply to be the best you can be.  If they choose to ask the secret, tell them.

Second keep in mind another principle that is taught in another of Harv’s courses “everything happens for a reason and that reason is there to assist me.” Yes it is difficult to be positive and conscious around people and circumstances that are negative, but that’s your test! Just as steel is hardened in the fire, if you can remain true to your values while others around you are full of doubt and even condemnation, you’ll grow faster and stronger”

Did you know that most people earn within 20% of the average income of their closest friends?  That’s why you’d better watch whom you associate with and choose whom you spend your time with carefully.

“If you want to fly with the eagles, don’t swim with the ducks”

Rich people hang around with winners.  Poor people hang around with losers.  Why? It’s a matter of comfort

 

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Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery part 5

This post is further learnings from the book Secrets of the Millionaire mind. Today we discuss the first four wealth files in depth.
Think big, rich people create their own lives, Rich people play the money game to win, and are committed to been rich.

Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery

Yesterday I shared the 17 Wealth Files.  Today I am going to go into more detail on the first 4 Wealth files.

I am currently reading the book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T Harv Eker and in this series of posts I am sharing what I am learning from this book.

The first Wealth File I am going to talk about is

Rich People believe “I create my Life” Poor People believe “Life happens to me”

The most important thing you meed to know about rich people is they believe they are responsible for their own life.  They choose to believe that they create their life by their thoughts and actions.

They do not blame anything else for where they are in life.  Rich people believe that no matter what (the environment is, the political situation is, my friends think of) what happens in my life is up to me.

Another thing that poor or middle class people do is justify to themselves that money is not really important.  If you do not think money is important then it will not feature greatly in your life.  Money is extremely important in the areas in which it works, and extremely unimportant in the areas in which it doesn’t. And although love may make the world go round, it sure doesn’t pay for the building of any hospitals, churches or homes.  It also doesn’t feed anybody.

Another clue that you are not thinking rich is complaining.  I just love this statement “When you are complaining, you become a living breathing “crap magnet””.  When you think this it really makes it clear to you that it is stupid to complain because the more you complain the more you are putting bad stuff out there, and the more that you put the bad stuff out there the more it will come back to you.

Whenever you hear yourself blaming, justifying or complaining stop immediately and remind yourself that you are creating your own life and that at every moment you will be attracting either success or crap into your life.  It is so important that you choose your thoughts and words wisely.

Remember Money Mastery is more mindset than technique

Remember there is no such thing as a really rich victim.

Wealth File 2

Rich people play the money game to win.  Poor people play the money game not to lose

If you shoot for the stars, you’ll at least hit the moon.  You need to think rich.  Give yourself treats every so often by doing things like not looking at the prices on a menu on a night out.  Make your goal to be rich not just comfortable.

Have the goal to have massive wealth and abundance not just to be comfortable and be able to pay the bills.

Wealth File 3

Rich people are committed to being rich. Poor people want to be rich.

The number one reason people don’t get what they want is because they do not know what they want.  Rich people are totally clear that they want wealth.  They are unwavering in their desire and are fully committed to creating wealth, as long as it is legal moral and ethical they will do whatever it takes to have wealth.  Rich people choose to be rich firstly then commit which means holding nothing back to achieve being rich.

Wealth File 4

Rich people think big.  Poor people think small.

The law of income: You will be paid in direct proportion to the value you deliver according to the marketplace.

Are you going to play big or are you going to play small?

Here is a video I did on this recently

https://www.facebook.com/Lazerlh/videos/10207621378755207/

Would you rather solve problems for a small amount of people or a large amount of people.  The world doesn’t need people playing small.

The declaration that goes with this wealth file is very strong.  “I think big! I choose to help thousands and thousands of people”

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Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery part 4

Now I am going to share the wealth files. These are direct from the book “secrets of the Millionaire mind” by T Harv Eker.

The wealth files are seventeen ways rich people think and act differently from poor and middle class people.

Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery

Last post we talked about how specific incidents can affect our blueprint and how to actually review what our blueprint is looking like now.

Now I am going to share the wealth files. These are direct from the book “secrets of the Millionaire mind” by T Harv Eker.

The wealth files are seventeen ways rich people think and act differently from poor and middle class people.

I am not going into any detail just listing them today.

  1. Rich people believe ‘I create my life.” Poor people believe “Life happens to me”
  2. Rich people play the money game to win.  Poor people play the money game not to lose
  3. Rich people are committed to being rich.  Poor people want to be rich.
  4. Rich people think big.  Poor people think small.
  5. Rich people focus on opportunities.  Poor people focus on obstacles.
  6. Rich people admire other rich and successful people.  Poor people resent rich and successful people.
  7. Rich people associate with positive, successful people.  Poor people associate with negative or unsuccessful people.
  8. Rich people are willing to promote themselves and their value.  Poor people think negatively about selling and promotion.
  9. Rich people are bigger than their problems.  Poor people are smaller than their problems.
  10. Rich people are excellent receivers.  Poor people are poor receivers
  11. Rich people choose to get paid on results.  Poor people choose to get paid based on time.
  12. Rich people think “both.” Poor people think “either/or”
  13. Rich people focus on their net worth.  Poor people focus on their working income.
  14. Rich people manage their money well.  Poor people mismanage their money well.
  15. Rich people have their money work hard for them. Poor people work hard for their money.
  16. Rich people act in spite of fear.  Poor people let fear stop them.
  17. Rich people constantly learn and grow.  Poor people think they already know.

Over the next few days we will go into more detail about what these wealth files mean.

For today have a great day.

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Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery part 3

Last post we talked about the way that programming and modelling have set our financial blueprints and shared an exercise in our to change this part of our blueprint.

Today we will talk about more gems I have got from the book ‘Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” by T Harv Eker.

Another way that our thoughts about money can be influenced is from specific incidents.

Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery

Last post we talked about the way that programming and modelling have set our financial blueprints and shared an exercise in our to change this part of our blueprint.

Today we will talk about more gems I have got from the book ‘Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” by T Harv Eker.

Another way that our thoughts about money can be influenced is from specific incidents.

Harv gives the example of Josey.  When she was eleven years old her parents were having yet another argument about money at a restaurant.  Her Dad was standing up thumping the table.  Next thing she knew he was tuning red then blue then falling to the floor.  Because Josey had learned CPR in swim team she administered CPR to him but he died in her arms.  So from that day forth Josey’s mind linked money to pain.  As an adult she got rid of all her money as soon as she earned it because she associated it with pain.  It was also interesting to note that she became a nurse.  After doing the course with Harv she has now given up nursing, she felt she was in the job for the wrong reason and is now doing financial planning one on one with people helping them to understand how their past programming runs every aspect of their life.

Another example he gives is his own wife was brought up with the belief that women did not have money because everytime she wanted something her mother would say “go and ask your father, he has all the money”  As a result as an adult anytime she was given money she would spend it all as she was programmed that women only had money for a specific purpose and that was to spend it.

The steps to change your financial blueprint as a result of specific incidents is:

  1. Awareness – Consider a specific emotional incident you experienced around money when you were young.
  2. Understanding – Write down how this incident may have affected your current financial life.
  3. Disassociation – Can you see why this way of being is only what you learned and isn’t you? Can you see you have a choice in the present moment to be different?
  4. Declaration – Put your hand on your heart and say ” I release my nonsupportive money experiences from the past and create a new and rich future” Touch your head and say “I have a millionaire mind

So from doing these exercises have you worked out what your financial blueprint is set for?  Are you conditioned to have a consistent income or a fluctuating income? Are you set to earn only a maximum amount e.g 75-100,000 a year or $250,000 + a year?

More importantly are you set to reach your full financial potential.  Some of you might be asking ‘why on earth would anyone need the millions a year?’ Firstly that question is not very supportive to your wealth and is a sure sign you’ll want to revise your money blueprint.  Secondly some people want to earn lots of money so they can help other people.  Be a huge donor to charities that matter to them.  For me that is the Wellington Free Ambulance and now my family in Kenya.  For my own father it was the Marrow transplant Unit in Christchurch and Diabetes research.

For the founder of my company it is helping to feed 100,000 children a day.

Another question is are you good at investing or saving? Some people can be an absolute Midas when it comes to attracting money however fail abysmally at successful investing.  Check your blueprint to see if it is a result of modelling or influence.

The best way to discover your blueprint is to look at your results.  Is money a struggle or does it come easily? Your blueprint is like a thermostat.  If the temperature in the room is 20 degrees, chances are good that the thermostat is set for 20 degrees.  If a window is opened or a door is opened the thermostat will always do its best to return the room to the 20 degrees.  The only way to permanently change the temperature in the room is to adjust the thermostat.  In the same way, the only way to change your level of financial success “permanently” is to reset your financial thermostat.

Here is the wealth principle from this discussion:

  • The only way to permanently change the temperature in the room is to reset the thermostat.  In the same way, the only way to change your level of financial success “permanently” is to reset your financial thermostat.

You can try anything and everything you want to.  Study, develop your knowledge in marketing, sales and negotiation but unless you have the inner toolbox big enough to create and accept large amounts of money all the study in the world will be useless.

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Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery Part 2

Today I am going to carry on from where I left this blog and share with you a few more wealth principles I have learned from reading the Secrets Of the Millionaire Mind by T Harv Eker.

As I mentioned in my last blog our programming over the years has made us who we are today. Harv gives us a wonderful example of how this was manifesting and how this belief was changed.

Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery

Today I am going to carry on from where I left this blog and share with you a few more wealth principles I have learned from reading the Secrets Of the Millionaire Mind by T Harv Eker.

As I mentioned in my last blog our programming over the years has made us who we are today.  Harv gives us a wonderful example of how this was manifesting and how this belief was changed.

This is a direct quote from the book

Stephen shared with us that when he was growing up, his Mom always used to say, “Rich People are greedy.  They make their money off the sweat of the poor.  You should have just enough to get by.  After that you are a pig”

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to work out what was going on inside Stephen’s unconscious mind. No wonder he was broke.  He was verbally conditioned by his mother to believe that rich people are greedy.  Therefore, his mind linked up rich with greedy, which of course is bad.  Since he didn’t want to be bad, unconsciously he couldn’t be rich.

Stephen loved his Mom and didn’t want her to disapprove of him. Obviously based on her beliefs if he were to get rich she wouldn’t approve.  Therefore the only thing for him to do was to get rid of any extra money beyond just getting by, otherwise he would be a pig.

Now, you would think that in choosing between being rich and being approved by Mom or anyone else for that matter, most people would take rich.  Not a chance! The mind just does not work that way.  Sure riches would seem to be the logical choice. But when the subconscious mind must choose between the deeply rooted emotions and logic, emotions will always win.

Now here is that wealth principle

  • When the subconscious mind must choose between deeply rooted emotions and logic, emotions will almost always win.

The way this was mended for Stephen was – first he had to understand that these non-supportive beliefs were his Mom’s not his.  Next they got his Mom to approve of him been rich by buying her a condo in Hawaii which she loved.  And now he is a millionaire many times over. She loves that he is rich and tells everyone how generous he is.

 

Here is the method used to do the re-programming of verbal programming.

  1. The first step is awareness. Write down all the statements you heard about money, wealth and rich people when you were young.
  2. Understanding Write down how you believe these statements have effected your financial life so far
  3. Disassociation Can you see that these thoughts represent only what you learned and are not part of your anatomy and not who you are?  Can you see that you have a choice in the present moment to be different?
  4. Declaration Place your hand over your heart so the body can feel the vibrations and say “What I heard about money isn’t necessarily true.  I choose to adopt a new way of thinking to support my happiness and success. ”  Touch your head and say “I have a millionaire Mind

The other main cause of our programming is modeling.  Were your parents good with money?  Were all the arguments in the house because of money and the way it was saved or spent? Did your parents take risks with their money? Were they entrepreneurs?

If your blueprint isn’t set for success, you are doomed.  So please do these exercises, think about your conditioning as a child and work to change it so you can have the real success you desire.

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Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery

hat kind of money mastery do you have?

Do you have a millionaire mind?

Do you know about wealth principles?

I have been reading the book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by Harv T Eker and would like to share with you today some of the Wealth Principles he discusses that enable you to understand money mastery.

Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery

What kind of money mastery do you have?

Do you have a millionaire mind?

Do you know about wealth principles?

I have been reading the book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by Harv T Eker and would like to share with you today some of the Wealth Principles he discusses that enable you to understand money mastery.

The first one that really struck home is

  • Your Income will only grow to the extent you do!

Now what does this mean?  To me this means that if your mind is not prepared to accept a large amount of money through things we were told in our developing years or our total attitude to money then you will only get the income your mind is prepared to accept.  This is why a lot of lottery winners after a couple of years are back to the position they were in just before they won the lottery.  Their mind will not let them stay rich as it goes against something in their mental blueprint.

  • If you want to change the fruits, you will first have to change the roots.  If you want to change the visible, you must first change the invisible.

This means if you want to change your results then you have to work at what is below.  (The mind) You need to change the mind by changing your limiting beliefs.  This can be done by reading and understanding that the things your parents told you about money are not real. By consciously watching your thoughts and reactions to money and changing the thoughts when you catch them, and avoiding people who have a very negative concept about money. We need to work on our inner selves to improve the outer results.

  • Programming leads to thoughts, thoughts lead to feelings, feelings lead to actions and Actions lead to results.

Your financials blueprint is a result of what you have learned in the past.

Here is a little video I did about some of the programming I got as a child.

Money does not grow on trees

Do you want to know ways that you can improve your financial blueprint, your money mastery, and gain a millionaire mind?

Understand these wealth principles and I will share more with you over the next few days.

For now if you want to know more, meet on Facebook, and I would love to know what you think of the first few wealth principles I have shared with you today.

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Small changes make a big Difference Part 8 – Visioning

According to Rob Yeung visioning is the skill of creating the right kind of vision one that encompasses what we want from our whole lives and not just our careers. By doing so, we can ensure that we not only achieve our future goals and the rewards that go with it, but also enjoy the lives we live in the meantime.

Small Changes make a big difference – visioning

According to Rob Yeung visioning is the skill of creating the right kind of vision one that encompasses what we want from our whole lives and not just our careers.  By doing so, we can ensure that we not only achieve our future goals and the rewards that go with it, but also enjoy the lives we live in the meantime.

One of the first exercises we are asked to perform in the bootcamps I have been doing for my business is to work out our well formed income and then to work out our ideal day.  This ensures that the visions we have for success encompass all aspects of our life.   There is a great example Rob Yeung gives of a very successful businessman that has achieved everything he wanted in business but to the detriment of actually having a life.  Unfortunately when he created his vision it was one dimensional on career only.  Nothing about relationships or the type of life he would lead.

Many companies have visions and it has been proofed through research that entrepreneurs and CEOs who have a vision help their companies grow significantly.  Examples of visions are WWF “We seek to save a planet, a world of life”  or Nokia’s which was ‘A world where everyone can be connected’

Lots of people have visions too, but they do not necessarily talk about them however exceptional people do talk of having a vision of the career, life and legacy they would like to carve out and of the quests and goals that make them leap out of bed in the mornings.

My vision is my why for doing business, I want to be able to help people with time and finances, travel, be with my husband and the big desire is to be able to gift an ambulance crew and all maintenance costs to our local ambulance service.  My vision is to be able to enjoy life on my own terms and spend time helping charities with their needs not ever having to worry about where the finances for life are coming from.

Research tells us that even the mere act of imagining something can make it more likely to happen, which is why it is a very good idea not to imagine bad things happening.  However high achievers decide what they want and work towards shaping their future.

Having a picture of our desired future can be a formidable force when it comes to our lives as shown by this experiment.

One team of experimental psychologists invited volunteers to take a test that involved them solving anagrams in a set amount of time.  Immediately before taking the anagram test, half the participants were urged to imagine that they had failed the test and to explain why they might fail.  The other half of the group were asked to imagine they had succeeded on the test and also to explain why they might succeed.  Those who had imagined success actually did better on the test than those who had imagined failure.  Their mental expectations and explanations had a tangible effect on their performance.

Once we have identified what is important to us we help ourselves to make better decisions and avoid veering off course.  Once we have made the decision then opportunities to get to our vision will present themselves.  A vision should act as a compass leading us in the right direction.  Having spelt out a vision, we can quickly identify whether any given opportunity would make us thrive or suffer.  Having a clear vision allows us to make sure the goals we have set are the right ones to have, not just because people expect it of us.

The clearer you are about what you want in life the more likely you are to get it.  People with a vision have a clarity and sense of purpose that helps them stay on the course.

A great example of a way to have a rounded vision is that of entrepreneur Julian Ranger.  Julian like most high achievers is a rich man.  What Julian does is he has four major categories of goals: relationships, learning, experiences, and achievement with an overarching goal of order.

To Julian ‘order is having a clear idea of what my vision is, what I want to achieve, the projects and tasks I need to do to achieve those things so things get done and don’t get forgotten and to help stop me procrastinating.  Without thinking about what you want you will never achieve what you want to do’

His first category of goals is about the relationships in his life.  He argues that people who are driven have a tendency towards selfishness.  Having a category that is to do with his family first and friends second reminds him to make time for them.

Learning is another key category.  He argues that a major part of being a flourishing leader or entrepreneur is having a learning disposition, accepting that you always have new topics and ideas to learn.

For me that is reading everyday, working my way through the training materials my company has put out to teach me how to market, doing the bootcamp I am doing, and masterminding with other like-minded business people.

Julian’s third category is experiences which he defines as a range of activities that make him feel alive.  Things like sport, holidays, walking , theatre and photography and in my case board-gaming or role-playing come into this category.

His fourth category is about achievement.  For the most part this is business achievements, but also includes work for charities and other career or money based achievements.

So how well does his holistic vision, his set of goals, work for him?

‘We’re all driven people.  If you give me the chance, I will happily spend hours on one thing but to the detriment of everything else I want to achieve.  Having the system allows me to achieve my goals. It stops me from being sucked away to one goal’ he explains.

And to bring it all together Julian reviews his goals and vision weekly, reminding himself of his priorities and making sensible trade-offs.

One of the things Rob Yeung does throughout the book is give you chances to Become your best so I am going to pull this one directly from the book

Creating a Balanced Vision

Time to take an honest look at how you run your life – or is it your life that runs you?  Project yourself into the distant future.  Imagine that everything has gone as well as it possibly could.  You have succeeded at accomplishing all of your life goals.  Now write about what you life is like.

Remember that the point of a balanced vision is to ensure that you give sufficient weight to the different facets of a life that will make you feel fulfilled and successful.  Here are some thoughts as to categories or components that you may wish to integrate into your vision:

  • Your Physical life
  • Your Relationships – Don’t forget about the quality and quantity of your social relationships and your loved ones
  • Future career and work achievements – What financial , business, or career ambitions would you like to realise? Remember your job is merely one aspect of your life.
  • Future legacy and social achievements – Consider what you would like to leave your family, the wider community, or even the planet once you’re gone
  • The Present – Enjoy the present.  Make time to do activities you enjoy.
  • Personal Values – think about how your vision falls into your personal values, what kind of person you crave to be every day.

Remember this is your vision, your personal definition of prosperity and a life well lived so feel free to add  further elements to complete your vision to what you feel is right.

 

Visioning is about using the balanced vision as a tool, a way to keep us motivated.  Write your vision down and put it somewhere where you will see it, refer to it, and use it to remind yourself of what’s important and what’s not.

A well constructed, balanced vision should be motivating and make us want to take action, or at least smile.  It should feel truly exciting, stretching us and encouraging us, rather than being a mere collection of goals.  But do remember that a vision is not set in stone.  Our visions change as our lives change too.  So just keep reviewing your vision to make sure it is keeping up with your personal development.  When we have a balanced vision we can be focused and clear on our goals.   We can decide what we want in the future and also what we want today.  We can be a success everyday.

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Introduction

Part 2 – Cherishing

Part 3 – Authenticity

Part 4- Centredness

Part 5- Connecting

Part 6 – Daring

Part 7 – Citizenship

 

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Small Changes Make a Big Difference – Part 7 – Citizenship

The capability of Citizenship is about living by a code of ethics, a set of values. By being good citizens we draw like-minded people to us, the kind of people we crave as colleagues, customers, employees or even friends. When we’re seen in the right light, it materially affects relationships we can build and ultimately the results we can achieve.

Small Changes make a big difference – Citizenship

The capability of Citizenship is about living by a code of ethics, a set of values.  By being good citizens we draw like-minded people to us, the kind of people we crave as colleagues, customers, employees or even friends.  When we’re seen in the right light, it materially affects relationships we can build and ultimately the results we can achieve.

We all want to live and work with people we trust and respect.  We want to collaborate and be surrounded by people who want to do the right thing, who are principled and ethical and consider the long-term interests of as many people as possible.

Have you noticed when you are in the supermarket you only look to buy only the food which you know has been produced ethically?  For instance I only buy cage free eggs, and dolphin safe tuna.

As a consumer do you look to purchase or promote only products that you know and trust.

One of the things Rob Yeung talks about is that of all the exceptional people he interviewed for the book have outstanding reputations.  They believe that the best way to be perceived as good is to be good.  The easiest way to be talked about in a positive way is by behaving in a positive way.  They all strive to do well by others and focus on conducting themselves in responsible ethical ways.

Here is am exercise to do

Pick five words to describe yourself

Now here is the big test, if you really want to learn about yourself, repeat this exercise but asking a handful of friends and colleagues to use five words to describe you.  What does this say about your reputation?

With the internet been so big nowadays, things that we have always thought  of as private can become public.  There has already been a number of cases in New Zealand in the last couple of years where private emails have been sent to the wrong people.  Always say to yourself “how would I feel if this got online?”

The broader and longer term issues of citizenship really means sustainability.  In recent years this has come to mean the ability of both individuals and organisations to use the Earth’s natural resources in a way that continue forever.

A great example of this in New Zealand is we have a lot of Hydro and now Solar energy companies.  This way they are using renewable resources to produce energy.   My husband and I have a dream-home which we want to build. The home will be built the most sustainable way possible with all luxuries.  We are looking at wind-powered hydro electricity as well as solar energy to power it and to use as many forms of passive heating and cooling.  That has been our dream for many years now.

At the heart of Citizenship is considering the broader and longer-term impacts of more of our decisions.  Imagine that you have a board of advisers who will oversee all of your decisions.  Your panel is made up of three people:

  • Someone in your Profession, a peer. e.g a professional body representative.  What would they expect you to do?
  • A close friend outside of work who you respect.  What would a pal say who knows nothing about the technical nature of your work? Would they take a positive or dim view of your actions?
  • Your grown-up grandchild – How will you explain the decision you’re about to make to him or her?

Remember Citizenship applies to all of us – from young people starting out in their careers with seemingly little influence to senior people with sway over thousands or millions of people.  Regardless, the principle remains the same: make good decisions and set an example to those around you.

Ethical, responsible behaviour will increasingly become a prerequisite for success rather than an optional extra.  Consider that it’s better to be thought of as a leader than an ethical idler.

Being a good citizen simply involves investing a little more thought into the broader consequences of all that we do.  Ask yourself: ‘What would my children’s children want me to do?’

So what are you doing to display the trait of citizenship?  Leave a comment belowAnd share this post if you like what you are reading.

 

 

 

 

Small Changes Make a Big Difference Part 6 – Daring

Daring what is is? The trait of Daring is defined by Rob Yeung as the willingness to take action in the face of uncertainty. It’s about having courage and conviction, about pursuing activities in spite of how apprehensive or even down right scared we might feel. Daring is about embracing opportunities, forging ahead and not worrying about looking ridiculous should things go wrong.

Small Changes make a big Difference – Daring

Daring what is is?  The trait of Daring is defined by Rob Yeung as the willingness to take action in the face of uncertainty.  It’s about having courage and conviction, about pursuing activities in spite of how apprehensive or even down right scared we might feel.  Daring is about embracing opportunities, forging ahead and not worrying about looking ridiculous should things go wrong.

We talk about daring being going out of your comfort zone, making minor improvements and changes to everything you do.  For instance before I started this business I was a camera avoider.  Now I am doing videos, and sharing photos of myself quite regularly.  I had never stuck to any writing before and now I am doing blogging reasonably regularly, so for me taking the leap and investing in this business in the strongest way by going what we call black or all-in was definitely stepping out of my comfort zone.

Most business people that practice the trait of Daring understand that you invest time and money into a thing and try it out.  Some things work and somethings don’t but you have to try and fail, understand why you fail and grow from that.  You can try and fail a number of things until something finally works but you have to know why you failed in the first place.  Do the analysis.

One of the things you are always told is what will you say you did with your life on your deathbed.  Will you have regrets? You need to distinguish between soul enriching risks and frankly dangerous ones.

Starting a new company after doing the research can be a good risk, outright gambling can be a bad decision.  Too many people settle for what they have.  Will you end up settling too?

A huge body of research shows that people who make goals are much more likely to take action and make positive changes than people who only have vague intentions.  What has also been discovered is the best way to make these goals work is to make sure they follow the PAST Acronym  of

P=Positive

A=Ambitious

S=Specific

T=Timebound

We make goals positive because our brains are hardwired to respond to signals from both reward and punishment.  You know from animal experiments that reward is always the best way to train.  For example in a study at University of Rochester they found that people that were setting avoidance goals for themselves (i.e. trying to get away from negative consequences) actually experienced a decline in their self-esteem and feelings of life satisfaction as compared to people who pursued approach goals (moving towards positive consequences) eg wanting to make friends was more successful than wanting to avoid feeling lonely.

Specific, Difficult goals consistently lead to high performance however goals that are too arduous can hurt performance.  The goal needs to be specific and challenging but not feel unattainable. Making ambitious, specific commitments is a great way to kick us into action.

It has been found that self-imposed deadlines boost our chances of getting things done.  Simply by making a personal pledge to do a certain task by a certain date can be good too.

The best way to meet our goals is to follow a stepwise approach.

  • Begin by drawing a staircase on a sheet of paper. Include at least six for a start.
  • Write down a few words about your current situation at the bottom of the staircase
  • Now write a short description about where you would like to get to at the top of the staircase
  • Now start working backwards from your goal to figure out the individual steps you will need to take.
  • Think about the order of the steps.  Which ones do you need to do first.
  • For each step consider
    • What are the specific actions you need to do?
    • Who can/should help?
  • You may need to re-draw your staircase several times adding further steps.

Drawing your staircase is only the first step.  Now you need to start taking action.

One of the best ways to promote Daring is to make people believe that you are changeable and can be developed, do not attach labels to them and encourage them that anything can be learned.

When encouraging children to be daring teach your children that their brain circuitry is malleable and it grows fresh connections and grows in response to stimulation and nearly anything can be improved with diligence.

Pursuing more opportunities does mean that we will fail more often so one way to give us a backstop for this is to have a Setback Manifesto. Exceptional people see blunders and failures as feedback, constructive criticism, and insight into what doesn’t work or what they should do differently.  Rather than seeing them as a sign that we should give up, setbacks can tell us that we may need to work harder, learn more, consider other options or adapt our tactics, or ask for help.  Repeated failures normally tell us that we should pursue something else but at least we know for certain what doesn’t suit us.

Remember that nothing in life can ever be certain.  High achievers believe in trial and error and take action even when matters are uncertain or they feel a little scared.

Remembering that a huge part of success is psychological read and train your brain by listening to empowering audios, doing training on ways to do business and training your mind that you will be successful.

If you want to see more about the traits of high achievers then check out the rest of the series below

Introduction

Part 2

Part 3

Part 4

Part 5

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 This blog contains excerpts from the book The Extra One Percent by Rob Yeung