Heretaunga is where I met my husband to be. I was doing Pharmacy school and he was doing Business Computer Studies. We met in the common room of the Halls of Residence. He and a mate were throwing darts at a photo of one of their tutors and it caught my attention. We hit it off as a group of friends immediately however it was not until the third term that Alan and I officially started going out.
One of the tings that happened to us at Heretaunga was we got caught in the middle of a street fight. One of the members of our group saw his sister been hassled by some drunk children and he stood up for her. The boy said I will get my big friends onto you and we did not think anything of it. When we were heading back to the train station after we had done our time in Upper Hutt. We were accosted as a group. Two of the guys in our group had Martial arts back ground and Alan was a brawler however he got the brunt of the attack. The guy that attacked Alan caught him in the jaw so as we raced to the station to get help we were also working out that we would be calling for medical help as well. I remember spending some time with Alan in Lower Hutt hospital while they took xrays fortunately he did not have a jaw that needed wiring however he was on complan ( a meal substitute for about a week afterwards. The police caught the guys and when the rest of our party that were not in the hospital went to identify them they were barely recognisable as they had resisted arrest.
In the halls of residence at Heretaunga you each had your own dorm room in a community. I was in a community of mainly pharmacists and podiatrists and where we did all our socialising was the kitchen area of each community. This was a totally different kind of halls of residence to what we had in Dunedin but you were able to have your privacy.
Unfortunately I found out at Pharmacy school that exams and I did not agree. I had been near the top of the class for a number of my subjects during the year but as soon as exams came along I failed a couple of subjects and even after doing specials for those papers I still failed them.
Instead of getting a job this holiday or going away with the family my Christmas holidays that year were spent studying for the Specials exams. I was also keeping in contact with Alan so that may have been a distraction, but I remember studying at my grandparents over the holidays while the rest of my family went away as usual. When I went back to sit my exams I remember I still had access to the Halls of Residence but while I was waiting for the results I was staying at Alan’s place. When I got the results that even after Specials I had failed two subjects, my parents said that it was not worth doing a year of only two subjects and it was time for me to find a job. They also said that it was better for me to stay in Wellington as job prospects in Christchurch were not good at that time.
Alan’s family took me in until I managed to get my first flat and job.
So that was my first real experience of the big bad world. I went through a short term role and then was lucky enough that a relative was able to refer me to a job at an insurance company where they had worked most of their lives. I went through a temporary job doing records filing as my first introduction to working for someone else and then I got my first permanent role. I was with that company for 4 and a half years until I resigned and went temping. As soon as I had my first real job I got into my first flat, that was great until the owners decided to sell it out underneath us. This was a flat share situation with two other people and we all got on very well. It was a great introduction to flatting for me. When we all went our ways I found another flat closer to the main shopping centre in our suburb which was OK except that the flat was owned by a male that expected me to do all the “Female” chores and did not share responsibilities very well. When I had enough of that I moved into a flat with another couple and Alan was eventually able to join me as a flatmate. In that flat we had such a great time. The other couple were fantastic and we still see them from time to time locally. We had a lot of fun there and I even had my 21st birthday there , well the Wellington celebrations anyway. I also had a formal 21st birthday in Christchurch with all my family and childhood friends.
For my 21st my parents gave another chance to travel before I settled down. They gave me an 18 day Contiki bus tour where I got to join a busload of youth, all under 35 from Sydney to Adelaide and back again. It was an amazing trip. There were people from a number of nationalities on there and we all got very communal. I saw some amazing scenes and one that stood out to me was at Mt Buffalo the Lorikeets were so tame they would use you as a perch. I learned a lot on that trip. It was the first time I had been away by myself ever and I had a ball. My parents sent me on that trip in the hopes I would meet different guys as I was spending all my time with Alan. It was great I had a wonderful time but my heart was still there for Alan.
Alan got the opportunity to accompany the international Diplomat bag over to Sydney with his job while I was away so gave me a big surprise and turned up in Sydney when I was there for my final few days. That time is special to me as it is the first time Alan proposed to me, but at that stage I said let’s wait and see because I knew there was conflict with my family. We lived together for another few years as flatmates until we finally committed as I had decided then that I could take anything Alan could throw at me. We have now been married for 23 years.
When that couple who were the leaseholders decided to move into their own house we found our first flat together which was for us only. It was wonderful, we got to know each other really well and we had other flatmates come and join us from time to time. After a couple of years of this we got serious about looking for a house of our own, decided we would rather build new than buy existing and started looking at plans. When we told my family that we were buying a house we did it in the wrong order and said we are buying a house together and we are getting married. It should have been said the other way round. I basically left most of the Wedding arrangements to my family. As far as Alan and I were concerned we just wanted to be together, and we always say that the day we practiced our vows with the Minister is when we really felt the commitment. My family set the date for the 19th of September as it had history I do not know the relevance but to me it is the most wonderful day as it was when Alan’s and my life really started together. We moved into our new house on the 23rd October a month after marriage and we are still there today.
We started getting involved with ML M and other entrepreneurial ventures a long time ago. The first one we got involved with was a company called Echos and they were doing a high quality imitation of the big name perfumes. We had a bit of success with that company and enjoyed the products. I can’t remember exactly what happened with that company but after that we did our first stint in Amway, then I found Neways which I loved and am thinking of getting back in again because of the products, then picked up Amway again and as soon as possible I got back into Neways, and then we did ACN while I was still doing Neways as a wholesale buyer. We have also done Indian Perfume and Oils importing, and organised some big dance parties and more intimate public events and imported and wholesaled magazines and other products not readily available in New Zealand, so we have always had an entrepreneurial spirit.
Over the years Alan has been in stable work, in fact through company changeovers and outsourcing his history is 20 years with one company. However I have moved around a lot including been home-based for 10 years which is when I first started exploring Internet options. Over the years I have been a temp, a contractor and a permanent staff member so for me getting made redundant was not a big issue except that the job market this year has been crap. In the past when I have been made redundant or out of work Alan has always had a steady income.
When Alan got made redundant at the end of last year he was excited because of the fact he was going to start his own business and I was fully supportive of that. He started doing all the research and trying to network which was fine while I was still working but when I was made redundant as well in August things started getting tough.
We have worked through this and all I can say is thank goodness I was with Empower Network as it has given me the courage to keep going, to remain positive no matter what comes my way and know that no matter what happens things will work out. For instance we were just about to request assistance from the government when I got the temp assignment I am on now and that has kept our heads above water for another month. I am enjoying my assignment but really I want to get to a stage where I can enjoy spending time with Alan and not worrying about whether we are going to have a roof over our heads. I have enjoyed my taste of freedom and I want more of been able to devote my time to this business and enjoy the full entrepreneur lifestyle.
When I came across Empower Network, Alan had just been made redundant and was looking at setting up his own Business Coaching business and I loved the products and could immediately see the potential so I went all in. The potential I saw was that the information provided by the products could be used by any business owner to improve their business and having a fully supported blog platform where all the hard work was done for you was fantastic. Since then I have done two boot-camps, been made redundant myself, and generally been through the school of life in one year. I have learned so much about myself and know that as soon as possible this business is going to be Plan A because the job-market is very bad and I just want freedom to spend time with my husband and friends and not stress about how the basic bills are going to be paid. I want to be able to enjoy travel and everything else I have missed out on over the years because we have been doing jobs for people. Ultimately I want to be able to help people achieve their freedom and also give to charities that are dear to me in time and money.
I know I have missed out heaps of highlights and influences. As I am writing this I am remembering more and more things so I will share more about things that have happened in my life.
I want to share more with you, but to do that I need you to come along on this ride with me.
Have a great day