Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery part 5

This post is further learnings from the book Secrets of the Millionaire mind. Today we discuss the first four wealth files in depth.
Think big, rich people create their own lives, Rich people play the money game to win, and are committed to been rich.

Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery

Yesterday I shared the 17 Wealth Files.  Today I am going to go into more detail on the first 4 Wealth files.

I am currently reading the book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T Harv Eker and in this series of posts I am sharing what I am learning from this book.

The first Wealth File I am going to talk about is

Rich People believe “I create my Life” Poor People believe “Life happens to me”

The most important thing you meed to know about rich people is they believe they are responsible for their own life.  They choose to believe that they create their life by their thoughts and actions.

They do not blame anything else for where they are in life.  Rich people believe that no matter what (the environment is, the political situation is, my friends think of) what happens in my life is up to me.

Another thing that poor or middle class people do is justify to themselves that money is not really important.  If you do not think money is important then it will not feature greatly in your life.  Money is extremely important in the areas in which it works, and extremely unimportant in the areas in which it doesn’t. And although love may make the world go round, it sure doesn’t pay for the building of any hospitals, churches or homes.  It also doesn’t feed anybody.

Another clue that you are not thinking rich is complaining.  I just love this statement “When you are complaining, you become a living breathing “crap magnet””.  When you think this it really makes it clear to you that it is stupid to complain because the more you complain the more you are putting bad stuff out there, and the more that you put the bad stuff out there the more it will come back to you.

Whenever you hear yourself blaming, justifying or complaining stop immediately and remind yourself that you are creating your own life and that at every moment you will be attracting either success or crap into your life.  It is so important that you choose your thoughts and words wisely.

Remember Money Mastery is more mindset than technique

Remember there is no such thing as a really rich victim.

Wealth File 2

Rich people play the money game to win.  Poor people play the money game not to lose

If you shoot for the stars, you’ll at least hit the moon.  You need to think rich.  Give yourself treats every so often by doing things like not looking at the prices on a menu on a night out.  Make your goal to be rich not just comfortable.

Have the goal to have massive wealth and abundance not just to be comfortable and be able to pay the bills.

Wealth File 3

Rich people are committed to being rich. Poor people want to be rich.

The number one reason people don’t get what they want is because they do not know what they want.  Rich people are totally clear that they want wealth.  They are unwavering in their desire and are fully committed to creating wealth, as long as it is legal moral and ethical they will do whatever it takes to have wealth.  Rich people choose to be rich firstly then commit which means holding nothing back to achieve being rich.

Wealth File 4

Rich people think big.  Poor people think small.

The law of income: You will be paid in direct proportion to the value you deliver according to the marketplace.

Are you going to play big or are you going to play small?

Here is a video I did on this recently

https://www.facebook.com/Lazerlh/videos/10207621378755207/

Would you rather solve problems for a small amount of people or a large amount of people.  The world doesn’t need people playing small.

The declaration that goes with this wealth file is very strong.  “I think big! I choose to help thousands and thousands of people”

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Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery part 4

Now I am going to share the wealth files. These are direct from the book “secrets of the Millionaire mind” by T Harv Eker.

The wealth files are seventeen ways rich people think and act differently from poor and middle class people.

Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery

Last post we talked about how specific incidents can affect our blueprint and how to actually review what our blueprint is looking like now.

Now I am going to share the wealth files. These are direct from the book “secrets of the Millionaire mind” by T Harv Eker.

The wealth files are seventeen ways rich people think and act differently from poor and middle class people.

I am not going into any detail just listing them today.

  1. Rich people believe ‘I create my life.” Poor people believe “Life happens to me”
  2. Rich people play the money game to win.  Poor people play the money game not to lose
  3. Rich people are committed to being rich.  Poor people want to be rich.
  4. Rich people think big.  Poor people think small.
  5. Rich people focus on opportunities.  Poor people focus on obstacles.
  6. Rich people admire other rich and successful people.  Poor people resent rich and successful people.
  7. Rich people associate with positive, successful people.  Poor people associate with negative or unsuccessful people.
  8. Rich people are willing to promote themselves and their value.  Poor people think negatively about selling and promotion.
  9. Rich people are bigger than their problems.  Poor people are smaller than their problems.
  10. Rich people are excellent receivers.  Poor people are poor receivers
  11. Rich people choose to get paid on results.  Poor people choose to get paid based on time.
  12. Rich people think “both.” Poor people think “either/or”
  13. Rich people focus on their net worth.  Poor people focus on their working income.
  14. Rich people manage their money well.  Poor people mismanage their money well.
  15. Rich people have their money work hard for them. Poor people work hard for their money.
  16. Rich people act in spite of fear.  Poor people let fear stop them.
  17. Rich people constantly learn and grow.  Poor people think they already know.

Over the next few days we will go into more detail about what these wealth files mean.

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Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery part 3

Last post we talked about the way that programming and modelling have set our financial blueprints and shared an exercise in our to change this part of our blueprint.

Today we will talk about more gems I have got from the book ‘Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” by T Harv Eker.

Another way that our thoughts about money can be influenced is from specific incidents.

Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery

Last post we talked about the way that programming and modelling have set our financial blueprints and shared an exercise in our to change this part of our blueprint.

Today we will talk about more gems I have got from the book ‘Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” by T Harv Eker.

Another way that our thoughts about money can be influenced is from specific incidents.

Harv gives the example of Josey.  When she was eleven years old her parents were having yet another argument about money at a restaurant.  Her Dad was standing up thumping the table.  Next thing she knew he was tuning red then blue then falling to the floor.  Because Josey had learned CPR in swim team she administered CPR to him but he died in her arms.  So from that day forth Josey’s mind linked money to pain.  As an adult she got rid of all her money as soon as she earned it because she associated it with pain.  It was also interesting to note that she became a nurse.  After doing the course with Harv she has now given up nursing, she felt she was in the job for the wrong reason and is now doing financial planning one on one with people helping them to understand how their past programming runs every aspect of their life.

Another example he gives is his own wife was brought up with the belief that women did not have money because everytime she wanted something her mother would say “go and ask your father, he has all the money”  As a result as an adult anytime she was given money she would spend it all as she was programmed that women only had money for a specific purpose and that was to spend it.

The steps to change your financial blueprint as a result of specific incidents is:

  1. Awareness – Consider a specific emotional incident you experienced around money when you were young.
  2. Understanding – Write down how this incident may have affected your current financial life.
  3. Disassociation – Can you see why this way of being is only what you learned and isn’t you? Can you see you have a choice in the present moment to be different?
  4. Declaration – Put your hand on your heart and say ” I release my nonsupportive money experiences from the past and create a new and rich future” Touch your head and say “I have a millionaire mind

So from doing these exercises have you worked out what your financial blueprint is set for?  Are you conditioned to have a consistent income or a fluctuating income? Are you set to earn only a maximum amount e.g 75-100,000 a year or $250,000 + a year?

More importantly are you set to reach your full financial potential.  Some of you might be asking ‘why on earth would anyone need the millions a year?’ Firstly that question is not very supportive to your wealth and is a sure sign you’ll want to revise your money blueprint.  Secondly some people want to earn lots of money so they can help other people.  Be a huge donor to charities that matter to them.  For me that is the Wellington Free Ambulance and now my family in Kenya.  For my own father it was the Marrow transplant Unit in Christchurch and Diabetes research.

For the founder of my company it is helping to feed 100,000 children a day.

Another question is are you good at investing or saving? Some people can be an absolute Midas when it comes to attracting money however fail abysmally at successful investing.  Check your blueprint to see if it is a result of modelling or influence.

The best way to discover your blueprint is to look at your results.  Is money a struggle or does it come easily? Your blueprint is like a thermostat.  If the temperature in the room is 20 degrees, chances are good that the thermostat is set for 20 degrees.  If a window is opened or a door is opened the thermostat will always do its best to return the room to the 20 degrees.  The only way to permanently change the temperature in the room is to adjust the thermostat.  In the same way, the only way to change your level of financial success “permanently” is to reset your financial thermostat.

Here is the wealth principle from this discussion:

  • The only way to permanently change the temperature in the room is to reset the thermostat.  In the same way, the only way to change your level of financial success “permanently” is to reset your financial thermostat.

You can try anything and everything you want to.  Study, develop your knowledge in marketing, sales and negotiation but unless you have the inner toolbox big enough to create and accept large amounts of money all the study in the world will be useless.

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Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery Part 2

Today I am going to carry on from where I left this blog and share with you a few more wealth principles I have learned from reading the Secrets Of the Millionaire Mind by T Harv Eker.

As I mentioned in my last blog our programming over the years has made us who we are today. Harv gives us a wonderful example of how this was manifesting and how this belief was changed.

Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery

Today I am going to carry on from where I left this blog and share with you a few more wealth principles I have learned from reading the Secrets Of the Millionaire Mind by T Harv Eker.

As I mentioned in my last blog our programming over the years has made us who we are today.  Harv gives us a wonderful example of how this was manifesting and how this belief was changed.

This is a direct quote from the book

Stephen shared with us that when he was growing up, his Mom always used to say, “Rich People are greedy.  They make their money off the sweat of the poor.  You should have just enough to get by.  After that you are a pig”

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to work out what was going on inside Stephen’s unconscious mind. No wonder he was broke.  He was verbally conditioned by his mother to believe that rich people are greedy.  Therefore, his mind linked up rich with greedy, which of course is bad.  Since he didn’t want to be bad, unconsciously he couldn’t be rich.

Stephen loved his Mom and didn’t want her to disapprove of him. Obviously based on her beliefs if he were to get rich she wouldn’t approve.  Therefore the only thing for him to do was to get rid of any extra money beyond just getting by, otherwise he would be a pig.

Now, you would think that in choosing between being rich and being approved by Mom or anyone else for that matter, most people would take rich.  Not a chance! The mind just does not work that way.  Sure riches would seem to be the logical choice. But when the subconscious mind must choose between the deeply rooted emotions and logic, emotions will always win.

Now here is that wealth principle

  • When the subconscious mind must choose between deeply rooted emotions and logic, emotions will almost always win.

The way this was mended for Stephen was – first he had to understand that these non-supportive beliefs were his Mom’s not his.  Next they got his Mom to approve of him been rich by buying her a condo in Hawaii which she loved.  And now he is a millionaire many times over. She loves that he is rich and tells everyone how generous he is.

 

Here is the method used to do the re-programming of verbal programming.

  1. The first step is awareness. Write down all the statements you heard about money, wealth and rich people when you were young.
  2. Understanding Write down how you believe these statements have effected your financial life so far
  3. Disassociation Can you see that these thoughts represent only what you learned and are not part of your anatomy and not who you are?  Can you see that you have a choice in the present moment to be different?
  4. Declaration Place your hand over your heart so the body can feel the vibrations and say “What I heard about money isn’t necessarily true.  I choose to adopt a new way of thinking to support my happiness and success. ”  Touch your head and say “I have a millionaire Mind

The other main cause of our programming is modeling.  Were your parents good with money?  Were all the arguments in the house because of money and the way it was saved or spent? Did your parents take risks with their money? Were they entrepreneurs?

If your blueprint isn’t set for success, you are doomed.  So please do these exercises, think about your conditioning as a child and work to change it so you can have the real success you desire.

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Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery

hat kind of money mastery do you have?

Do you have a millionaire mind?

Do you know about wealth principles?

I have been reading the book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by Harv T Eker and would like to share with you today some of the Wealth Principles he discusses that enable you to understand money mastery.

Millionaire Mind |Wealth Principles |Money Mastery

What kind of money mastery do you have?

Do you have a millionaire mind?

Do you know about wealth principles?

I have been reading the book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by Harv T Eker and would like to share with you today some of the Wealth Principles he discusses that enable you to understand money mastery.

The first one that really struck home is

  • Your Income will only grow to the extent you do!

Now what does this mean?  To me this means that if your mind is not prepared to accept a large amount of money through things we were told in our developing years or our total attitude to money then you will only get the income your mind is prepared to accept.  This is why a lot of lottery winners after a couple of years are back to the position they were in just before they won the lottery.  Their mind will not let them stay rich as it goes against something in their mental blueprint.

  • If you want to change the fruits, you will first have to change the roots.  If you want to change the visible, you must first change the invisible.

This means if you want to change your results then you have to work at what is below.  (The mind) You need to change the mind by changing your limiting beliefs.  This can be done by reading and understanding that the things your parents told you about money are not real. By consciously watching your thoughts and reactions to money and changing the thoughts when you catch them, and avoiding people who have a very negative concept about money. We need to work on our inner selves to improve the outer results.

  • Programming leads to thoughts, thoughts lead to feelings, feelings lead to actions and Actions lead to results.

Your financials blueprint is a result of what you have learned in the past.

Here is a little video I did about some of the programming I got as a child.

Money does not grow on trees

Do you want to know ways that you can improve your financial blueprint, your money mastery, and gain a millionaire mind?

Understand these wealth principles and I will share more with you over the next few days.

For now if you want to know more, meet on Facebook, and I would love to know what you think of the first few wealth principles I have shared with you today.

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Small changes make a big Difference Part 8 – Visioning

According to Rob Yeung visioning is the skill of creating the right kind of vision one that encompasses what we want from our whole lives and not just our careers. By doing so, we can ensure that we not only achieve our future goals and the rewards that go with it, but also enjoy the lives we live in the meantime.

Small Changes make a big difference – visioning

According to Rob Yeung visioning is the skill of creating the right kind of vision one that encompasses what we want from our whole lives and not just our careers.  By doing so, we can ensure that we not only achieve our future goals and the rewards that go with it, but also enjoy the lives we live in the meantime.

One of the first exercises we are asked to perform in the bootcamps I have been doing for my business is to work out our well formed income and then to work out our ideal day.  This ensures that the visions we have for success encompass all aspects of our life.   There is a great example Rob Yeung gives of a very successful businessman that has achieved everything he wanted in business but to the detriment of actually having a life.  Unfortunately when he created his vision it was one dimensional on career only.  Nothing about relationships or the type of life he would lead.

Many companies have visions and it has been proofed through research that entrepreneurs and CEOs who have a vision help their companies grow significantly.  Examples of visions are WWF “We seek to save a planet, a world of life”  or Nokia’s which was ‘A world where everyone can be connected’

Lots of people have visions too, but they do not necessarily talk about them however exceptional people do talk of having a vision of the career, life and legacy they would like to carve out and of the quests and goals that make them leap out of bed in the mornings.

My vision is my why for doing business, I want to be able to help people with time and finances, travel, be with my husband and the big desire is to be able to gift an ambulance crew and all maintenance costs to our local ambulance service.  My vision is to be able to enjoy life on my own terms and spend time helping charities with their needs not ever having to worry about where the finances for life are coming from.

Research tells us that even the mere act of imagining something can make it more likely to happen, which is why it is a very good idea not to imagine bad things happening.  However high achievers decide what they want and work towards shaping their future.

Having a picture of our desired future can be a formidable force when it comes to our lives as shown by this experiment.

One team of experimental psychologists invited volunteers to take a test that involved them solving anagrams in a set amount of time.  Immediately before taking the anagram test, half the participants were urged to imagine that they had failed the test and to explain why they might fail.  The other half of the group were asked to imagine they had succeeded on the test and also to explain why they might succeed.  Those who had imagined success actually did better on the test than those who had imagined failure.  Their mental expectations and explanations had a tangible effect on their performance.

Once we have identified what is important to us we help ourselves to make better decisions and avoid veering off course.  Once we have made the decision then opportunities to get to our vision will present themselves.  A vision should act as a compass leading us in the right direction.  Having spelt out a vision, we can quickly identify whether any given opportunity would make us thrive or suffer.  Having a clear vision allows us to make sure the goals we have set are the right ones to have, not just because people expect it of us.

The clearer you are about what you want in life the more likely you are to get it.  People with a vision have a clarity and sense of purpose that helps them stay on the course.

A great example of a way to have a rounded vision is that of entrepreneur Julian Ranger.  Julian like most high achievers is a rich man.  What Julian does is he has four major categories of goals: relationships, learning, experiences, and achievement with an overarching goal of order.

To Julian ‘order is having a clear idea of what my vision is, what I want to achieve, the projects and tasks I need to do to achieve those things so things get done and don’t get forgotten and to help stop me procrastinating.  Without thinking about what you want you will never achieve what you want to do’

His first category of goals is about the relationships in his life.  He argues that people who are driven have a tendency towards selfishness.  Having a category that is to do with his family first and friends second reminds him to make time for them.

Learning is another key category.  He argues that a major part of being a flourishing leader or entrepreneur is having a learning disposition, accepting that you always have new topics and ideas to learn.

For me that is reading everyday, working my way through the training materials my company has put out to teach me how to market, doing the bootcamp I am doing, and masterminding with other like-minded business people.

Julian’s third category is experiences which he defines as a range of activities that make him feel alive.  Things like sport, holidays, walking , theatre and photography and in my case board-gaming or role-playing come into this category.

His fourth category is about achievement.  For the most part this is business achievements, but also includes work for charities and other career or money based achievements.

So how well does his holistic vision, his set of goals, work for him?

‘We’re all driven people.  If you give me the chance, I will happily spend hours on one thing but to the detriment of everything else I want to achieve.  Having the system allows me to achieve my goals. It stops me from being sucked away to one goal’ he explains.

And to bring it all together Julian reviews his goals and vision weekly, reminding himself of his priorities and making sensible trade-offs.

One of the things Rob Yeung does throughout the book is give you chances to Become your best so I am going to pull this one directly from the book

Creating a Balanced Vision

Time to take an honest look at how you run your life – or is it your life that runs you?  Project yourself into the distant future.  Imagine that everything has gone as well as it possibly could.  You have succeeded at accomplishing all of your life goals.  Now write about what you life is like.

Remember that the point of a balanced vision is to ensure that you give sufficient weight to the different facets of a life that will make you feel fulfilled and successful.  Here are some thoughts as to categories or components that you may wish to integrate into your vision:

  • Your Physical life
  • Your Relationships – Don’t forget about the quality and quantity of your social relationships and your loved ones
  • Future career and work achievements – What financial , business, or career ambitions would you like to realise? Remember your job is merely one aspect of your life.
  • Future legacy and social achievements – Consider what you would like to leave your family, the wider community, or even the planet once you’re gone
  • The Present – Enjoy the present.  Make time to do activities you enjoy.
  • Personal Values – think about how your vision falls into your personal values, what kind of person you crave to be every day.

Remember this is your vision, your personal definition of prosperity and a life well lived so feel free to add  further elements to complete your vision to what you feel is right.

 

Visioning is about using the balanced vision as a tool, a way to keep us motivated.  Write your vision down and put it somewhere where you will see it, refer to it, and use it to remind yourself of what’s important and what’s not.

A well constructed, balanced vision should be motivating and make us want to take action, or at least smile.  It should feel truly exciting, stretching us and encouraging us, rather than being a mere collection of goals.  But do remember that a vision is not set in stone.  Our visions change as our lives change too.  So just keep reviewing your vision to make sure it is keeping up with your personal development.  When we have a balanced vision we can be focused and clear on our goals.   We can decide what we want in the future and also what we want today.  We can be a success everyday.

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To see the other parts to this series of 8 posts then click the following links

Introduction

Part 2 – Cherishing

Part 3 – Authenticity

Part 4- Centredness

Part 5- Connecting

Part 6 – Daring

Part 7 – Citizenship

 

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Small Changes Make a Big Difference – Part 7 – Citizenship

The capability of Citizenship is about living by a code of ethics, a set of values. By being good citizens we draw like-minded people to us, the kind of people we crave as colleagues, customers, employees or even friends. When we’re seen in the right light, it materially affects relationships we can build and ultimately the results we can achieve.

Small Changes make a big difference – Citizenship

The capability of Citizenship is about living by a code of ethics, a set of values.  By being good citizens we draw like-minded people to us, the kind of people we crave as colleagues, customers, employees or even friends.  When we’re seen in the right light, it materially affects relationships we can build and ultimately the results we can achieve.

We all want to live and work with people we trust and respect.  We want to collaborate and be surrounded by people who want to do the right thing, who are principled and ethical and consider the long-term interests of as many people as possible.

Have you noticed when you are in the supermarket you only look to buy only the food which you know has been produced ethically?  For instance I only buy cage free eggs, and dolphin safe tuna.

As a consumer do you look to purchase or promote only products that you know and trust.

One of the things Rob Yeung talks about is that of all the exceptional people he interviewed for the book have outstanding reputations.  They believe that the best way to be perceived as good is to be good.  The easiest way to be talked about in a positive way is by behaving in a positive way.  They all strive to do well by others and focus on conducting themselves in responsible ethical ways.

Here is am exercise to do

Pick five words to describe yourself

Now here is the big test, if you really want to learn about yourself, repeat this exercise but asking a handful of friends and colleagues to use five words to describe you.  What does this say about your reputation?

With the internet been so big nowadays, things that we have always thought  of as private can become public.  There has already been a number of cases in New Zealand in the last couple of years where private emails have been sent to the wrong people.  Always say to yourself “how would I feel if this got online?”

The broader and longer term issues of citizenship really means sustainability.  In recent years this has come to mean the ability of both individuals and organisations to use the Earth’s natural resources in a way that continue forever.

A great example of this in New Zealand is we have a lot of Hydro and now Solar energy companies.  This way they are using renewable resources to produce energy.   My husband and I have a dream-home which we want to build. The home will be built the most sustainable way possible with all luxuries.  We are looking at wind-powered hydro electricity as well as solar energy to power it and to use as many forms of passive heating and cooling.  That has been our dream for many years now.

At the heart of Citizenship is considering the broader and longer-term impacts of more of our decisions.  Imagine that you have a board of advisers who will oversee all of your decisions.  Your panel is made up of three people:

  • Someone in your Profession, a peer. e.g a professional body representative.  What would they expect you to do?
  • A close friend outside of work who you respect.  What would a pal say who knows nothing about the technical nature of your work? Would they take a positive or dim view of your actions?
  • Your grown-up grandchild – How will you explain the decision you’re about to make to him or her?

Remember Citizenship applies to all of us – from young people starting out in their careers with seemingly little influence to senior people with sway over thousands or millions of people.  Regardless, the principle remains the same: make good decisions and set an example to those around you.

Ethical, responsible behaviour will increasingly become a prerequisite for success rather than an optional extra.  Consider that it’s better to be thought of as a leader than an ethical idler.

Being a good citizen simply involves investing a little more thought into the broader consequences of all that we do.  Ask yourself: ‘What would my children’s children want me to do?’

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Small Changes Make a Big Difference Part 6 – Daring

Daring what is is? The trait of Daring is defined by Rob Yeung as the willingness to take action in the face of uncertainty. It’s about having courage and conviction, about pursuing activities in spite of how apprehensive or even down right scared we might feel. Daring is about embracing opportunities, forging ahead and not worrying about looking ridiculous should things go wrong.

Small Changes make a big Difference – Daring

Daring what is is?  The trait of Daring is defined by Rob Yeung as the willingness to take action in the face of uncertainty.  It’s about having courage and conviction, about pursuing activities in spite of how apprehensive or even down right scared we might feel.  Daring is about embracing opportunities, forging ahead and not worrying about looking ridiculous should things go wrong.

We talk about daring being going out of your comfort zone, making minor improvements and changes to everything you do.  For instance before I started this business I was a camera avoider.  Now I am doing videos, and sharing photos of myself quite regularly.  I had never stuck to any writing before and now I am doing blogging reasonably regularly, so for me taking the leap and investing in this business in the strongest way by going what we call black or all-in was definitely stepping out of my comfort zone.

Most business people that practice the trait of Daring understand that you invest time and money into a thing and try it out.  Some things work and somethings don’t but you have to try and fail, understand why you fail and grow from that.  You can try and fail a number of things until something finally works but you have to know why you failed in the first place.  Do the analysis.

One of the things you are always told is what will you say you did with your life on your deathbed.  Will you have regrets? You need to distinguish between soul enriching risks and frankly dangerous ones.

Starting a new company after doing the research can be a good risk, outright gambling can be a bad decision.  Too many people settle for what they have.  Will you end up settling too?

A huge body of research shows that people who make goals are much more likely to take action and make positive changes than people who only have vague intentions.  What has also been discovered is the best way to make these goals work is to make sure they follow the PAST Acronym  of

P=Positive

A=Ambitious

S=Specific

T=Timebound

We make goals positive because our brains are hardwired to respond to signals from both reward and punishment.  You know from animal experiments that reward is always the best way to train.  For example in a study at University of Rochester they found that people that were setting avoidance goals for themselves (i.e. trying to get away from negative consequences) actually experienced a decline in their self-esteem and feelings of life satisfaction as compared to people who pursued approach goals (moving towards positive consequences) eg wanting to make friends was more successful than wanting to avoid feeling lonely.

Specific, Difficult goals consistently lead to high performance however goals that are too arduous can hurt performance.  The goal needs to be specific and challenging but not feel unattainable. Making ambitious, specific commitments is a great way to kick us into action.

It has been found that self-imposed deadlines boost our chances of getting things done.  Simply by making a personal pledge to do a certain task by a certain date can be good too.

The best way to meet our goals is to follow a stepwise approach.

  • Begin by drawing a staircase on a sheet of paper. Include at least six for a start.
  • Write down a few words about your current situation at the bottom of the staircase
  • Now write a short description about where you would like to get to at the top of the staircase
  • Now start working backwards from your goal to figure out the individual steps you will need to take.
  • Think about the order of the steps.  Which ones do you need to do first.
  • For each step consider
    • What are the specific actions you need to do?
    • Who can/should help?
  • You may need to re-draw your staircase several times adding further steps.

Drawing your staircase is only the first step.  Now you need to start taking action.

One of the best ways to promote Daring is to make people believe that you are changeable and can be developed, do not attach labels to them and encourage them that anything can be learned.

When encouraging children to be daring teach your children that their brain circuitry is malleable and it grows fresh connections and grows in response to stimulation and nearly anything can be improved with diligence.

Pursuing more opportunities does mean that we will fail more often so one way to give us a backstop for this is to have a Setback Manifesto. Exceptional people see blunders and failures as feedback, constructive criticism, and insight into what doesn’t work or what they should do differently.  Rather than seeing them as a sign that we should give up, setbacks can tell us that we may need to work harder, learn more, consider other options or adapt our tactics, or ask for help.  Repeated failures normally tell us that we should pursue something else but at least we know for certain what doesn’t suit us.

Remember that nothing in life can ever be certain.  High achievers believe in trial and error and take action even when matters are uncertain or they feel a little scared.

Remembering that a huge part of success is psychological read and train your brain by listening to empowering audios, doing training on ways to do business and training your mind that you will be successful.

If you want to see more about the traits of high achievers then check out the rest of the series below

Introduction

Part 2

Part 3

Part 4

Part 5

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 This blog contains excerpts from the book The Extra One Percent by Rob Yeung

 

 

 

 

 

 

Small Changes Make a Big Difference Part 5 – Connecting

Connecting it is something we do everyday with people but are you using your connections to their best advantage?

I am in the process of hunting for a new job at the moment as well as running an online business and trying to raise funds for my friend in Kenya. So I am trying to use my connections I have to help me all of these tasks.

Small Changes Make a Big Difference Part 5 – Connecting

Connecting it is something we do everyday with people but are you using your connections to their best advantage?

I am in the process of hunting for a new job at the moment as well as running an online business and trying to raise funds for my friend in Kenya.  So I am trying to use my connections I have to help me all of these tasks.

This morning I received an email from a connection on Linked In which I had not actually contacted yet about the job hunt and tomorrow I have an interview with his organisation.  On Facebook I am using my connections to build business contacts and relationships so people will get to know me and my desires. I am also using my Facebook contacts and personal contacts to help me to raise money to get my friend’s 10 year old daughter released from Hospital.

I was reading in Rob Yeung’s book,  The Extra One Percent – How Small changes make Exceptional People, that often it is our weak ties that act as bridge builders between communities.

Think about how many connections you have. Write a list of those people.

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Now rate those contacts on the strength of your relationship with them, perhaps by giving each person between 1 and 3 stars.  Now say you have a particular goal – perhaps to raise money for a charity, promote your business or find a job, you may be tempted to stick to the safe ground of talking to the people you know best, your 2 star and 3 star relationships but research has shown this may not be the most lucrative course of action.

Several studies have highlighted the power of weak ties. One Rob talks about is where employees and managers in three totally different organisations – An American Pharmaceutical Company, a British Bank and a Canadian Oil and Gas company – were surveyed.  The research team found that most people relied on their strong ties for knowledge and advice, however the most useful information more often than not came from their weak ties rather than the people they were in contact with most often.  Another study found that jobseekers who made the additional effort to contact their weak ties tended to earn more in their next jobs than their counterparts who focused mainly on the people they already knew well.

It has even been discovered that belonging to a greater number of social groups and networks may even help protect from illness.  More than a few studies show that people who have more diversified social networks live longer than people with fewer social relationships.  Most remarkably, the relative risk of death for individuals with few social networks is comparable in magnitude to the impact that cigarette smoking has on mortality.  Putting it another way, having few friends is as dangerous for our health as taking up smoking.

When I read this I had to re-read it a few more times.  Having few friends is as dangerous for our health as taking up smoking.  Glad I am out and about a lot.  I only have a few really close friends but I have lots of associates and acquaintances so I hope it makes me safe.  Working everyday in big organisations, been involved in sports clubs or dance clubs or business clubs always adds to your social networks.  I am not so sure this is relevant for online only friends, but if it is then I am safe there as I am making more online friends every day.

It is not necessarily the number of friends you have but more the diversity of the social ties you have.  You can have loads of friends but if they all are in the same group hang out with the same people etc then it will not give the diversity required.  The protective factor seems to be the nuber of different social circles a person belongs to and this protective factor seems to have held even taking into account other factors such as patterns of smoking, alcohol consumption, physical exercise, sleep quality, diet and personality type. So when it comes to the shielding health benefits of social ties, both the quantity and quality of ties matter less than the sheer diversity of them.  That is having loads of weak ties.

Hang with your friends and the people you feel most comfortable with but remember it is actually our weak ties that may help us to break fresh ground, achieve our goals and protect our health.  Whether we are looking for an unadvertised job opening, a new customer for our businesses or even a hot date, you’re more likely to find it through casual acquaintances than close friends.friends

Connecting is the skill of reaching out to new people and leveraging relationships for mutual gain.  You don’t have to meet hundreds of new people.  Just the art of adding a couple of new people to our address book each day can make a difference and significantly boost our chances of achieving goals.

Remember people may be happy to help us achieve our goals, but they can’t unless we gently let them know we exist and tell them what we are wanting.

We must look to surround ourselves with the people we most aspire to be like.  Whether your intention is to lose weight, raise money for a cause, move up the corporate ladder, learn from people who are doing what you want to do.

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If you want to see the other four other traits I have written about so far then please check them out here.

Small Changes make a Big Difference  – Introduction and Part 1 and Awe

Small Changes make a big Difference – Part 2 – Cherishing

Small Changes make a big difference –  Part 3 – Authenticity

Small Changes make a big Difference – Part 4  – Centredness

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 This blog contains excerpts from the book The Extra One Percent by Rob Yeung.